There are the games to watch. Political pundits will be repeating what we already know: no one really has a clue. Maybe you'll go out to eat. Shopping is always needed. Cooking, cleaning and yard work make their demands. Maybe you'll have a chance to sleep in and rest up a bit.
So far so good. What will you do for your marriage? For most of us, we will definitely continue the status quo. Who wants to talk about work on the weekend? And what could be more work than talking about one's marriage. That's a minefield. He gets upset. She gets upset. Sounds like fun. Better just to leave the whole thing alone and just slowly go with the flow, downstream.
OR, you could have the following dialogue:
Stuart and Jennie sit down to dinner. Stuart has been frustrated lately and so he figures that he is going to radically impress Jennie. He starts, "Honey, I was thinking. Why don't we work on making our marriage even better?"
Jennie is in fact impressed and responds with an accusation: "Are you having an affair?"
"No. Of course not! I just want us to enjoy our marriage even more," Stuart says with some hope.
"You know, Stuart, I keep complaining and you don't change. This must be about something you want, right?"
At this point, Stuart may just tell Jennie off. So, clearly, this is NOT the right approach.
Rather, welcome the signals that your partner wants to improve your relationship. You will have time to express your concerns, as issues to be addressed and not as pent-up character assassinations waiting to strike.
What can you accomplish with 60 hours at work? Imagine what you could do with 60 hours dedicated to your marriage. Yes, you may say that you need to sleep and relax over the weekend. You still have chores to do. OK. Imagine what you could accomplish in 10 hours. Or even 6 hours. How about 1 really good hour together?
So, what will most people do this weekend to improve the love between them and their spouse? Nothing.
Make a wiser choice.
If you'd like more help and encouragement for the weekend, check out this post: A Quick Thought Before Arguing This Weekend.
Please share your suggestions and tips on productively using free time to build your marriage. We all benefit from each other's experience. Your tip may even appear in an upcoming book on taking your marriage from so-so to super. Have a fantastic, loving weekend!