My sweet and lovely wife, Aliyah, has finally agreed to be slowly introduced on our blog. She's been working steadily with me behind the scenes for months now. Aliyah proofs and edits, posts and schedules and handles a lot of the techie and creative stuff.
In addition, she's the maven behind our social media strategy and our growing reach is due to her efforts. We are developing ideas for our upcoming blog redesign and expansion with the aim of bringing you more great content, covering a host of topics for couples and families.
Over the coming weeks and months, you'll get to know Aliyah better as she shares more about herself and starts writing regularly for our blog. For now, just in time for some #WednesdayWisdom, here's a photo she recently uploaded to our Instagram account, with a beautiful and insightful post. Enjoy!
All That Glitters
"On the path to happiness, it's wise to remember not all that glitters is gold. Appearances can be beautiful but it is the essence of a person (or thing) that defines true beauty and endures for the duration. In your relationship, look beyond the superficial eccentricities or habits that may occasionally annoy you and focus on the heart and soul of your partner and enjoy their beauty and the blessings they bring to your life."
It is so, so easy, these days especially, to be swayed by our eyes. Images bombard us via our phones and iPads, computers and TVs with all manner of beautiful and shiny things that are guaranteed (yes, guaranteed!) to bring us happiness and pleasure, usually in a youthful and sexy package, to boot. Ads on buses, in subways, tempt us with lovely colors and scripts and display windows are filled with attractive and enticing forms. All of this glitz and glamour reinforces one vital message: if we just had this one THING (flashy car with chrome and black wheels, yes!, or size 2 bodycon dress with the perfect 36"x23"x34" figure to squeeze into it, yes, Yes, YES!)... we'd be happy.
Thankfully, through experience, most of us know that the path to true, sustained happiness is not as simple and straightforward as acquiring something that looks or feels good. On the contrary, oftentimes what most benefits us in the long run is a practice or experience that, if given the choice, we'd rather avoid. A visit to the dentist, a prostate exam, meeting the would-be in-laws that are absolutely convinced you'll be the ruination of their perfect child, are all instances that come to mind. Totally necessary but thoroughly unpleasant.
And so it is with our beloved. Perhaps initially, in the throes of infatuation and our blooming love, they were perfect, or quite nearly so. More shiny and splendid than anything else, ever! Over time, invariably, the sheen wears off (at least a little) and the splendid becomes a little less apparent, too often replaced by the familiar, predictable and, yuch!, annoying and bothersome.
It is precisely at these moments! that it would serve us well to remember the words that the inimitable playwright, Shakespeare, wrote in The Merchant of Venice: "all that glitters is not gold." The true worth and beauty of our beloved are not in their appearance or behavior in the best of times. It lies entirely in their heart and soul and is expressed in the little, unremarkable things that they give and share with us, each and every day. When we come to cherish them for all of the wonder and blessings they bring to us, then we are truly happy.