And to clarify even further, this is in no way an attempt to infringe on a woman's right to dress as she wants. Rather, in today's day and age, when women may feel that they have to publicly present themselves in a way that men do not, it may be useful to hear a reminder that a woman can be as successful as a man without having to "play the sex card."
In response to the comments that were read during a follow-up video, Ms. Chan wondered why people were responding to how she had been dressed as opposed to the quality of her work. And herein lies the disconnect. Perhaps the viewers who let the station know they disapproved of Ms. Chan's attire were trying to tell her that they were distracted from focusing on her quality work because of how she was dressed.
In all fairness to Ms. Chan, apparently the outfit that she was originally going to wear did not work well on camera, so she had to find an alternative and the more seductive and revealing dress was it. But, why does a successful, intelligent and talented woman feel that merely dressing professionally is insufficient to garner the attention and career recognition she deserves?
- Women prefer to be looked upon as sexual objects rather than professionals.
- There's been a significant, societal breakdown between the private and the public. What might be an appropriate outfit to woo your beloved into a romantic interlude is now more similar to a business card: "Hey! Here I am. I'm a young, attractive woman. Notice me!"
- A woman wants to be dressed more attractively than professionally because a woman's career path is determined by her appearance to a far greater extent than is a man's? If such is unfortunately the case, what segment of the public/audience is making this demand? Either way, it seems a very sad and unfair state for women.
Sadly, when the recipient of this year's 'Break the Internet Prize' by the Webby Awards, "honoring excellence on the Internet" (the emphasis is mine), is a woman better known for what she doesn't wear in public and on social media rather than any beneficial contributions to society, the message that sex sells is reinforced. In this regard, Ms. Chan's 'evening' attire while forecasting the weather was conservative by comparison.
How can you relate the above to your marriage? Men and women should both do their best to be attractive to their partner. Of course, this is meant in the larger sense of attractiveness. Personality, temperament and looks are all part of being attractive. To honor and safeguard the joys of your marriage, there should be barriers between the public and private.
What do YOU think of this? When you go out, you should make each other proud to be in each other's company. When do you dress seductively to the nines? During your private time together. Do husbands want their wives to have to compete for their attention with all the other women? Is your wife not worthy of your attention simply because she's your beloved? Or maybe you want your wife to be a trophy for you to create envy in other men. Is any of that being respectful to your wife? Do you not think that she fears aging and a decline in her attractiveness?
And wives, many of you may actually dress up to attract the attention or approval of other women. If you too want to cause envy, then maybe you should examine why you need to do so. Otherwise, perhaps you crave some attention from your husband. If that's the case, then please have your husband read this so that he can begin to realize that he needs to focus on you.
So, here is to talented women. We should judge them on their abilities. They are not on display. Husbands and wives need to look more to each other and less at strangers.