But what agendas do the media have? There are 3 that come to mind.
Whoever is producing what you see wants to convince you to see things their way. Too often we comply as we watch, listen and accept what we are fed. How often do we fact check? We know who is good and who is evil, because the "experts" tell us so. But most "experts" have their own agendas. Often, they are at odds with what is best for you.
When I grew up, I thought that the news was an unbiased account of what happens in the world. I felt fortunate to be growing up in a democracy. Dictatorships had agendas. The good guys didn't. As a middle aged adult, I realize that this is total nonsense. The media lies constantly and the angle of reporting depends upon who is interpreting events and who is signing their paychecks. I have seen the media request events so that the media could report them.
So, this is the first of their agendas. Creating groupthink. But whose?
Next, there is a 24/365 vacuum to fill. What can they produce that will catch our eyes? To be honest, dramatic and unusual content seems to work the best. Or, they may resort to stimulating our more primitive drives. Even the conservative news sites are full of it. Go to FoxNews.com and scroll down and see what is lurking to grab your attention. Or follow a link on DrudgeReport to the Mirror and ...
Lastly, the media is there to make money. So, whatever will bring in greater views wins the day.
Now, this is not a rant against skin or healthy sexuality. On the contrary. Enjoy your husband or wife. The problem is when we focus on what appeals at a superficial level, we forget to focus on our real blessings. The model with the artificial everything may look amazing. Or the male model who spends 5 hours a day at the gym may get your heart beating faster.
But, their values and priorities may leave you cold. Do they hold their children with the same love as your partner? Would they cherish you as your partner does? Yes, your imperfect partner. If God has blessed you with a partner who is loving, kind and attractive then every time we take in the sexuality of others, we are not appreciating what we have.
This reminds me of the couple who are invited to dinner at their friends' home. The hosts kids look great, the house is immaculate and everyone is so polite. What do the guests think about themselves? They had to argue with their kids to not roll around in the mud on the way over. Before that they may have had to struggle to get their children to even agree to come along. The tension produced resulted in an argument between the wife and the husband over proper parenting. When they finally arrived at their friends' house, tired and angry, they see the magnificence of a perfect family. The couple feel like failures.
In reality, the couple that invited them had their own arguments with their children to clean up their messes, argued with each other because the wife suspects her husband may be having an affair at the office. They envy the couple that they invited over to distract them from their own problems.
This extreme example doesn't have to be the case, of course. The point is that while the grass looks greener on the other side of the screen, especially when a few hours or preparation precede its appearance, the real beauty is with the partner who loves you.
Do I care if open marriages are now a trending item? Nope. I think that's pathetic. What about that selfie of someone's surgically altered anatomy earning them more fame, money and respect than a goodhearted person may achieve in a lifetime? The world is full of falsehood. We need to focus on our part.
We need to remember that what makes the media money often appeals to the same urges that take away from our focus on our beloved. And a lot of the advice being given, to be honest, is nonsense. "Experts" have their own agendas and problems. As for celebrity advice? No comment.
Money rules. Just ask yourself. How is it allowed for rap singers to speak so disrespectfully of women? How dare they? And who is absorbing this mentality?
Here are some questions to consider:
Is it OK with your partner if you need to fantasize about someone else to get excited?
If you love watching porn, why do you need it? How did you lose your sensitivity to the joy of intimacy?
Should a wife feel obligated to submit to anal sex to keep her man if that's what he desires? Ask her. "Is anal a turn on for you, honey, or would you feel sodomized and aggressed?" God forbid to do so to your beloved because she feels compelled by trending articles on the internet or in the latest magazine.
You and the love you share and express with your beloved is a blessing and it is real. A world that is constantly focused on sexual display is not real. It shows that people are not happy or satisfied with their marriages. The answer, my friend, is what it always was. Focus on each other and the intimacy you create will be far better than a virtual life of superficiality and nonsense.
After all, what is marriage? It's the commitment to please, honor and respect your spouse. Garbage belongs in a can, not in your head.