Your relationship started out as novel and exciting. It smelled good, looked good and felt good. But, slowly it took on the appeal of rubber. Why? Many reasons.
1: Boc boc boc: Even the most interesting chicken meal would lose its appeal if we had to stare at the same old bird; day in day out. Not to compare the company of your beloved to a featherless caricature but both of you need to bring fresh material to your relationship. Same old remains old and gets older by the minute. What can each of you do to add freshness to your marriage.
2: Take flight: New scenery to share together doesn't have to cost. At least spend regular enjoyable time together doing something that you both enjoy. Chickens are not known to be the best, high flyers; especially flightless rubber ones. But, they still get around if given the chance.
3: Featherless: Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and is only one quality in a partner. To whatever extent we possessed beauty, as we age, we tend to lose what we had. My own head used to be packed with a lot more coverage than it currently fields. But, we all should try to do what we can to be pleasant looking for our spouse.
4: Wings anyone?: Do you consider whether you are a better person now than when you first married? Spread your wings and think about what you could be doing to be a nicer person. Help someone? Smile more? Hold your tongue? Look for the positive to mention? Be more generous? We all vacillate from thinking that we are awesome to worthless, narcissists excluded. But there really are qualities that you can improve. It is very energizing to watch your spouse develop positively.
5: Mini dino-feet: With the right traction (commitment), you and your spouse will continue to enjoy each other. You can look back to what you have accomplished and you can look forward to continuing on your way together.
One good thing about Charlie: despite his stagnation, he doesn't stink. But if we don't develop and grow positively in our marriage, well, our relationship may not be so fortunate.
Time to get cracking...