The smooth, creamy chocolate melts in your mouth and activates pleasure centers in your brain, reminiscent of soothing a baby. Cuddling, hugging and kissing increase the release of nice, healthy doses of oxytocin and keep us bonded together. At the same time, crunching the almonds releases stress by reducing cortisol. A win-win situation except, perhaps, for our waistline.
Even better for our health, emotionally, physically and spiritually, seeking comfort with our spouse improves our marriage. But what about when we need to relieve our stress? Do we gnash our teeth at our spouse? Do we yell or otherwise let our frustrations inappropriately? Too often, the answer is 'Yes.' Everyone is guilty to some extent.
Just how much damage we cause when stressed, though, depends on two critical factors:
1: the level of stress we feel owing to the importance we place on what is stressing us;
2: how we release our pent up frustrations as expressed by our ability to cope in a healthy way.
Clearly, developing positive, adaptive and healthy coping strategies, both cognitive and behavioral, is vastly important to your health and marriage. Exercise, meditation and laughter do wonders for stress relief. Cuddling and nuzzling together with your loved one also work incredible wonders and increase comfort and closeness.
If we have firmly established, positive habits in place before the stress sets in, we are more likely to turn to them in default when we are upset or anxious and less capable of rational thought. All said, if you desire low calorie, healthful and unifying methods to deal with life's challenges, develop them now. The ease of a quick snack is tough to pass up but the alluring promise of a comforting, relaxing and rewarding marriage is well worth your investment!