Dream vs. Fantasy
A marriage isn't a legal status and a shared bed for two nice people who live together based on their mutual sweetness. Neither is it reveling in your choice of partner. That's 'happily ever after' nonsense that ends in divorce or misery.
Your marriage is a delicate balancing act. It's the ongoing saga of your efforts to seek your common good as you learn to prioritize your partner's needs over your wants. But, an opposing force is constantly at play. It requires that you don't ignore your own needs.
This is a delicate dance and those who are heavy footed may step on their partner's toes too many times. Yet, if you are too self-nullifying, you may find your own toes being squished.
There are certainly many other factors that affect the success of your relationship with your beloved:
- Ability to communicate
- Desire to resolve conflict
- Compatibility of values and life goals
If you have not dealt with the issues that are stressing your love and connection, you may find that you second guess your commitment altogether. This vulnerable period often coincides with a time of year when people look forward to making significant changes in their lives. The result is a dramatic increase in the number of people who file for divorce in the new year.
This is why our affordable and supportive Gift of Love program was developed. It would be a shame if the dream of the young couple could be realized, but they divorce instead because they were never given the skills to ensure their future. It would be even worse if couples wanted help to either resolve ongoing issues and/or improve upon their marriage and the help they needed was just too expensive, as is often the case.
If you have read the posts and static pages on this blog, you will have a strong sense of the priority we give to healthy marriage. You will also have been exposed to many ideas that could transform your relationship. But, when we are caught up in the middle of a long-term struggle, we often can't find our way to impose a reset and move forwards to a better place.
2017 could be the best year of your marriage so far. And with trust in the partner you originally chose, discarding a fantasy in order to achieve your dream can be a beautiful process. After all, marriage won't make you happy on its own.
Going forward, here are your options:
You can buy into dreary messages like
Or, you can stop being passive and make the changes you need:
- Vote for your marriage.
- Turn your marriage into a devotional service.
- Don't lose that loving feeling.
- Give yourself or a loved one (your spouse, your parents, your married children) the Gift of Love for only $87, now through December 31st, and make 2017 your strongest and most loving year yet.
If you think that I can be of assistance, reach out. If you're under financial strain and it's affecting your marriage, then definitely, please reach out and, together, we'll create a plan for you. Lack of money and gainful employment are leading causes of divorce and it's the very couples suffering from those strains who need the most help but are least able to afford it. It's a vicious circle that I'll help you break free from.
I'd love to be of service and look forward to hearing from you. Just reach out.