A large part of the celebration is dancing with the Torah scrolls. Yes, dancing with a law book! But the Torah is much more. It contains the essence of what it means to be a caring person. God wants us to care for the widow, the orphan and the poor. He also wants us to have a personal relationship with Him.
Speaking of personal relationships, how do we tie building your marriage and God giving us His code for life together? Well, I would think that even in this age of atheism, most well-adjusted people would agree that to love and respect is a wonderful goal and to establish social justice enables the family to thrive.
But more specifically, there is a more subtle lesson to learn. Something that is precious needs to be honored and treated with great care. If it is holy, then all the more so. In the presence of God's Word, children learn how to care. They are shown by example that you defer to Him and are part of a supportive community.
But, what happens at home? God said, "love your fellow as yourself." How can you possibly love another as you love yourself? You need to act to your fellow with the same consideration that you do for yourself. Not an easy task, for sure. But incredibly noble.
So, who is your closest "fellow"? I will suggest that this is your spouse, your literal soulmate. So, how must you treat them? Incredibly, we can easily fall into the habit of treating the Book that tells us what to do with great respect, but we fail to actually put into practice what the Book tells us God wants. As such, you're not showing reverence for God's Book, but ignoring His message.
Rather, imagine a marriage where you see your partner as a Gift from God to be cherished, protected and treated with the greatest of humility. Pretend your partner is God's Holy Book. Would your day be different? Would your children grow up to become respectful adults? How would your partner react to being given such consideration?
We all need to wake up and dedicate ourselves with the following commitment:
"You, _____________________ , are my beloved spouse and God's gift to me. I will strive to be eternally grateful for His wonderful kindness. I will be as gentle and as loving to you as I would be if God presented you to me directly."
So, to all of my readers, non-Jewish and Jewish alike, I want to wish you continuing success in improving your marriage and enjoying the company of your partner.