At this time, do your thoughts turn to making resolutions? Well, how about making a titanic resolution? The kind that won't sink.
No doubt, people are busy planning how they could improve themselves this coming year. Diet, exercise and time management are popular resolutions. Learning to overcome addictions is also very significant. These are definitely excellent ideas.
But how about deriving a resolution from one of history's tragic events? Let this lesson transform your marriage. We all know the story of that most famous ship, the Titanic. When it was launched, it had a lot going for it. The Titanic was enormous. It was luxurious. It was so well built that even God couldn't sink it! Oops.
Yes, it is easy to get carried away with ourselves. If there is one thing that the maiden voyage of the Titanic should have taught everyone is the life-saving value of humility. And it is precisely that quality that, if seized, can transform both your marriage and your entire life.
I do not mean the idea of humility as being a doormat. Rather, healthy humility can only be present in people who truly values themselves. When you feel good about yourself, you no longer have to know everything. There is always the chance that no matter how well thought out something is, we were wrong. Bring that realization to your marriage and mount it like a prized trophy.
Stop criticizing others like you are the know-it-all. Don't ass - u - me. Maybe your partner has a better thought. Or just maybe, while you are battling your partner to win the key issue in a discussion, you have not realized that your kindness and love are what are really most important and not the topic you are so hung up on. Does pushing you partner to agree to your point of view matter more than destroying their confidence, sharing your respect and building your relationship?
If we can commit to being humble, then we can look across our table and see our precious spouse as our greatest ally. Our well-being is not dependent on always getting what we want or being right.
Only a great person can really be humble. The Bible tells us that Moses was the most humble man ever. How is that possible? He was a singularly unique and highly gifted person. Perhaps, when you speak to God 'face to face', and give some thought to Whom you are before, somehow that puts your life into perspective. Regardless of your religious beliefs, you can surely recognize the wonder that is you. Well your partner is equally wondrous.
Just remember: maybe...
- there is another way to look at things.
- you misjudged.
- you need to learn from someone else.
- you still need to work on perfecting your manners and kindness.
Just remember that by resolving to be humble, you can avoid the type of arrogance that has not only claimed countless lives throughout history but also countless marriages. Instead grasp the wisdom of humility that can vastly improve your marriage this coming year.