NOT the kind you see in the portrayed in media, however. Two beautiful people (the woman's make-up is perfectly applied), seductively clad and so full of sexual desire that you think they're long past the 'fore' stage and are seriously 'playing'. There are times such as this. But if you're tired of looking at staged images of pretend people having a better time than you, read on.
Most wives need their fires stoked by their affectionate spouse long before they feel sexual desire. (You would be surprised how many men are the same way. They just won't admit it.) So, wise husbands do acts of kindness and service to encourage and maintain their wife's intimacy with them, emotionally and physically. Despite being married for many years, there is a cycle to lovemaking and it begins by making love grow.
A good morning hug. A warm kiss. OK, maybe after you have already run to the bathroom to make that first call of duty. Scrambling around the kitchen, there is time for another hug. Maybe a pat or caress. Loving words add to the ambiance. You're getting the kids off to school? A little affection will help them feel secure.
So, when does foreplay really begin? Right after the last orgasm. Foreplay should be a constant in your marriage helping to create a tender, gentle and loving atmosphere in your home. Should you ask most men when foreplay begins, too many will probably answer that it begins once they start reaching for their wives. WRONG ANSWER.
A wife needs to feel secure in your love so that she will want to be touched. Being an outlet for someone's pent-up needs may work well in some casual circles, but not with your wife. She is your beloved. That means something. You should always be making love to her. Call her during the workday. A loving text (just not while driving) is also appreciated. When you kiss her during the day, are your lips running away because there is nothing better about to happen? Linger and bring passion to your mornings, afternoons, evenings and nights. Weekdays and weekends. A night without sex doesn't have to be a night without foreplay and lovemaking.
I can hear men arguing that they don't want to feel sexually frustrated. So, let's compare: would you rather an unhappy wife who will sometimes have sex with you but holds negative feelings towards you versus a happy wife who may not always make love with you each time you'd like but is happily and passionately engaged when she does? Sometimes health or other issues may even create periods when there won't be any sex for a while. However, if the love is amply and consistently applied, both of you will be in a much better 'position' when sex does take place.
Loving and pleasuring your wife should be a focus of your marriage. Your very touch should be associated with her desire for you. Lovers, now is the time to commit. Takers touch to get something. Real lovers reach out to feed their wives intellectually, emotionally, spiritually and physically all day long, day in, day out, in the most pleasurable nonsexual ways.
Would you like your wife to be in the mood more often? Make giving and demonstrating love your priority and notice whether there is a much greater likelihood that she desires to be with you, sexually, too.