"When I look into your eyes, I see love." ~ Unknown
I was looking for a beautiful birthday card to celebrate my wife's birthday. As I perused the shelves at the card store, I came across an interesting pattern that was most striking in one particular card. Every little stanza celebrated something the husband adores in his wife.
What's the problem? It celebrates how much SHE loves HIM! He loves her because of what she does for him. And he is thrilled by how she makes him feel. And guides him, helps him, encourages him, and on and on.
OK. So, while I think that this husband is truly blessed and should thank God and his wife for her generosity and loving kindness, this isn't what her birthday card should say! If he wanted to list what he appreciates about his wife, then these sentiments certainly qualify. And a wise husband would do well to regularly share his appreciation with his wife (as she should share hers with him). But, this is her birthday! He should make her feel special by sharing how how he loves her, not how he appreciates her loving him.
Needless to say I didn't buy that card but let this anecdote save as a guide for what NOT to do. Maybe today's generations don't know the difference between saying thank you and I love you. Maybe it's because people don't remember how to think of anyone but themselves. So, here's my attempt to write a card for my wife. I'm no poet (although you may remember an earlier poem I wrote in honor of my wife) but love expressed sincerely from the heart is always appreciated:
I appreciate all the love that you give me but
What matters today is the love that you receive from me.
I so look forward to spending our years together so that
you can continue to receive my love, my warmth and my caring.
I want to share life with you because that's what transforms
happenings into meaningful experiences.
I thank you for being with me,
I look forward to making you feel loved and cherished every day.
When you look into my eyes, I want you to see my love for you.
Happy Birthday, Sweetheart!
Enjoy your wife! And make sure she enjoys you!