If you realize that it is your wife who helps you to become a more considerate, generous, thoughtful person, then you need to be indebted to her. By her mere presence, your life is transformed. Yes, she will get on your nerves. But each time she does, the question is whether she is the cause of your problem or merely reacting to something inappropriate or inconsiderate that you are doing. A husband's responsibility is to take care of his wife, to respect her and to love her. So far so good and safe to say.
But I'm thinking about how the role of women in society has been changing over the years and I think that I have come up with a dilemma that women face.
Today women are doctors, lawyers, construction workers and most anything else you can think of. They are respected members of society who contribute greatly to its betterment. Yet at the same time, their sexploitation has increasingly become a part of mainstream society. Ironically, it seems that women are often the brains behind this. Many make millions annually as they offer ever more risque views of their bodies to their adoring fans.
What's happening? Are we witnessing the achievement of feminist goals? Women can achieve any profession they want, particularly in modern, developed countries, and that's great progress. And within reason, people can choose how modestly or immodestly they dress in public. And yet, something doesn't feel right.
From this man's perspective, it feels disloyal to one's wife to be surrounded by images of another woman's blatant sexuality at almost every turn. So, is this a problem for men? Or does it have something to say to women as well?
Women want to be sexually attractive to men. They want to be desired. Hopefully, their husbands are fulfilling that need. But when social mores allow for a 'hookup' society, then her curves, breasts and other niceties go from being a holiness that a couple shares to becoming a commodity. At this point, rights and dignity go in opposite directions.
Here is a comical illustration. Imagine that you are watching the news. The anchorman has his shirt opened half way down his chest. Why is he doing so? Possibly to improve the ratings? Sure. Does he have the right? Yes. Would you respect him as much for doing so? Probably not.
So, where do women reach that point of balance of feeling good about their appearance yet retaining the dignity they deserve? No doubt, everyone has an opinion. All I'm saying is that we all have to remember, men and women alike, that women are worthy of respect for more than their parts. Anything less hearkens back to less advanced and enlightened times.
How do you feel about continuing and increasing societal pressure for women to blatantly display their sexuality? Is it a 'plus' for women's freedom of expression? Is it a 'positive' model for girls and young women to emulate? What's YOUR perspective?